YOU HAVEÂ SPENTÂ YOUR LIFE CARRYING EVERYONE ELSE.
WHO IS CARRYING YOU?
YOU ARE THE ONE PEOPLE RELY ON. YOU HOLD THE PIECES TOGETHER. YOU MAKE IT ALL WORK. Â
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And yet when the noise dies down you can feel it.
 Something is missing.Â
You have tried working harder.Â
You have tried helping more.Â
You have tried being better.
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NONE OF IT FILLS THE GAP OR QUIETS THE RESENTMENT. Â
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THOUGHTLY HELPS HIGH SELF SACRIFICERS UNDERSTAND WHY THEY FEEL THIS WAY AND SHOWS THEM HOW TO RECLAIM CLARITY, ENERGY, AND INFLUENCE WITHOUT BECOMING SELFISH. Â
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A SELF SACRIFICER IS SOMEONE WHO NATURALLY PUTS OTHERS FIRST AND QUIETLY FORGETS TO INCLUDE THEMSELVES. THEY GIVE, SUPPORT, AND CARRY SO MUCH THAT THEY DO NOT NOTICE THEY ARE BREATHING LAST.Â
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IF YOU RECOGNIZE YOURSELF HERE, YOU ARE NOT IMAGINING IT.Â
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 The strain, the resentment, the constant pressure to show up are all signals... Â
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The Authentic Confidence Experience (ACE) Assessment is a powerful first step to understanding these signals through a new lens and identifying what needs to change.Â
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MOST SELF SACRIFICERS LIVE INSIDE A SILENT TRAP.
IT FEELS LIKE YOU ONLY HAVE TWO CHOICES.
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You can keep giving until you have nothing left.
Or you can pull back and risk looking selfish.
Neither option feels right.
So you choose the only one that feels safe.
You give more.
You carry more.
You take on what others could do.
It is not because you want to. It is because you cannot see another way.
The truth is there is a third option. A way to care for others without abandoning yourself.
THE THIRD OPTION.
A THERE IS A THIRD OPTION. NOT SACRIFICING YOURSELF. NOT OVERPOWERING OTHERS.
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It is the ability to know what you want, say it clearly, and work toward outcomes that meet everyone’s needs.
In the third option, leadership stops feeling like a tradeoff.
You share responsibility instead of carrying it.
You build solutions where no one has to disappear so someone else can thrive.
We call this the O2 Zone
If you have read this far, you already know something needs to change.
The ACE Assessment is a simple way to look at yourself through a new lens and understand the patterns shaping how you lead and relate.
There is nothing to fix.... Only something to see.
Operations and Technology Officer, Food Manufacturing Company
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I'm thrilled to share that we conquered our peak season just an hour before our deadline for getting all the orders out. We've learned a lot from this experience, but I am incredibly excited to announce that we all made it happen through teamwork and sheer determination. It took a lot of hard work and effort from everyone involved. I want to extend my heartfelt thanks to you for your unwavering support and for being there for me throughout this year. I truly appreciate everything you've done for me.
Executive Director, Education Organization
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There has been meaningful growth—especially in my clarity, confidence, and my ability to zoom out and arrange the puzzle pieces rather than carry them all myself. I’m more aware of my role as a systems-builder and culture-holder, not just a problem-solver. I feel more grounded in my vision and more intentional about where my energy goes. I’m noticing new questions emerging as I grow.
Vice President of Human Resources in Healthcare Industry
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Before I started working with Allison, I think my biggest insecurity was a lack of confidence in myself. Professionally, I never felt like I had enough knowledge or experience in my field which led me to play small and not share my thoughts or opinions. Personally, I feared that I didn’t even know who I was or what I wanted. And even if I did, what did it matter anyway. I never thought I could get what I want. Allison asks hard questions no matter what. Because it’s what needs to be asked and it’s what I need to think about and answer. This isn’t surface level bullshit. And I know whatever and however I answer, it doesn’t scare her.
